Vaginismus: Symptoms, Causes and Help

 Vaginal pain during sex is not uncommon, but most people suffer in silence. Find out if you have vaginismus and where to find help. | Free Sex Podcast |

I felt like a failure and I had little hope. The week of my honeymoon was full of adventure and fun but every time I looked at the bed in our hotel room, I feared I wouldn't be able to have sex with my new husband. Every time we tried, we had to stop because the pain was unmanageable. 

My feelings of guilt and failure were self inflicted. I had a patient and supportive hubby that worked through this with me. Much to my delight, my problems only lasted a few months. A few months might sound like a long time – but my case of vaginismus was very short compared to that of many women.

What is Vaginismus?

vag·i·nis·mus: noun - painful spasmodic contraction of the vagina in response to physical contact or pressure (especially in sexual intercourse).

Basically, the vagina becomes a brick wall, contracting so tightly that it is closed for business. Vaginimus is more common that you'd think. Many women struggle in silence, believing they are defected, less than, and unable to please or enjoy their husbands. Many husbands are worn down, trying to be supportive and patient.  The inability to have intercourse or pain-less sex puts strain on the relationships, and communication is often times replaced with frustration.

Do I have vaginismus?

  • Do you (or does your wife) experience great pain with penetration? 

  • Are you successful with penetration, but grin and bare it through the pain?

  • Is your body, especially the vaginal muscles, sore for hours or days after intercourse?

If you answered, yes, to any or all of these, there is a good chance that you are dealing with the painful effects of vaginismus. The good news is is that this condition is treatable and there are specialist and resources out there for you. Making an appointment with your doctor would be a great place to start.

On this episode, we talk about vaginismus–the symptoms, some causes, and resources to start looking into. Like with anything else, knowledge is power! Knowing the issue is the first step to recovery and we want to encourage you to find help!

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