How To Pick A Butt Plug

How to pick a beginner's butt plug | Free Sex Podcast

Anal play might not seem taboo to you, but if it’s uncharted territory, it probably sounds a little scary. “Will it hurt? Is it healthy? Dear God, will it fit?!” are all questions that may have ran through your head. Amongst these angsty questions, curiosity still sits and some decide to give the back door a try.

We’ve had a couple questions about butt plugs and where to start. Here’s what we learned about picking out your first one.

Start small and work up

You will not have success jumping into anal play with a big toy. You might get it in, but you won’t like it. Starting small and gradually working up to bigger toys will help acclimate your body to having something in a hole that is usually. . . well, empty. For beginners, who are brand new to anal play, may we suggest starting with a pinky finger. Once you’re ready for a little more girth, start thinking about a small anal plug and gradually move up to a bigger one - we suggest the “Doc Johnson” line.


Rubber, silicone, plastic, glass, metal and even wood are used to make toys. Silicone is soft, has give and is a less aggressive choice than glass or metal (wood just scares me). We suggest starting with a softer silicone toy if this is your first plug.

What’s your shape?

Oh, the shapes! There are so many. Many are smooth, some have ridges, some are bumpy or have a couple bulbs for extra sensation during penetration and exit. If you are a man, you’ll want something long enough and slightly curved to directly stimulate the prostate. (I’ve heard that the Aneros Helix does fantastic job.) If you are a woman, get something that you are comfortable with. Some women like starting off with a small, smooth and short plug, when others prefer something a little longer or textured.

Anal/prostate play can be a fun addition to the bedroom, but easily a turn off if your first experience isn’t fun or just uncomfortable. Like everything else, talk to each other about what you are comfortable with before starting. This week, we answer some listener questions with Mr. Big and Daddy Magic and talk butt plugs, erotica, low libido, and purity shaming.

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